A Vision for what is Possible

I could look at this photo all day. Just love and pride. Elizabeth has a precious note that her Dad sent to her. Message, “Whenever I hear stories about strong women I think of you. Love, Dad” Enough said.

My daughter is a relationship coach (Love Coach). Her focus is with people in the LGTB/queer realms, polyamory as well. But what she teaches (and preaches) are lessons from which we can all learn. And mostly it boils down to Love and Respect. She sends out a weekly email. I asked her if I could use her message from this weeks email for THC and she said yes. Enjoy.

“Hey beautiful beings, 

Let’s jump right in.

My vision for the world is that we are all healed.

My vision for the world is that we can all see each other as human beings, with thoughts that want to come to life, feelings that are being felt, and stories that could be shared.

My vision for the world is that we see life as precious; our lives, the lives of others, the lives of plants, animals and the planet.

My vision for the world is one where we are free to be who we are. I do truly believe that most people are good.

I believe that most people want the same things. They want to be safe and happy and they want the people that they love to be safe and happy.

I believe that the reason that we get polarized is because in that want and need for safety and happiness, we get scared. And then when we get scared, we listen to people who want to take advantage of us in our vulnerable state. Because they want power. Because they think that’s how they will be safe and happy.

I believe that some of the most dangerous people in the world are people who are hurting, who don’t know that no one is out to get them, but since they believe that, they lash out like it’s true. Then they get other people to believe it, too.

I believe that if we treated harmful people as hurt people, that we could actually do more good and help lower harm.

I believe that if we saw ourselves as capable of doing that, we would do it. I believe that if we saw that was possible, we would learn how to do it.

I believe that most people who have given up on love have just been hurt too many times to see that they could be loved.

I believe that in the polyamorous community, we unfortunately play out these wounds and hurt each other and create a community the mirrors the one that we were trying to heal from.

I believe we do that in the queer community, as well, but it seems to be at a lesser degree.

I believe that if we were all honest about who we were that we would heal individually and at the collective level.

I am idealist enough to believe this is possible but not naive enough to know that it will take some effort in getting there.

I believe this is an oversimplification but I also believe these things can be more simple than we make them.

I believe that if all of us did something small inside of this vision it would be more simple.

I believe we can start by being honest with who we are. Maybe you just start with yourself. But I also believe that you can take the brave and vulnerable step of letting other people in.

I believe that the time we have is precious, and I am going to treat it as such.

There have been things that I haven’t been sharing, talking about, bringing to light because I have been scared. I have been trying to get it right. I’ve been not wanting to get hurt and playing small.

But I know this for sure, every single time in my life when I have been the most authentic version of myself – I have said who I am, what I want, and I have taken action – are the times that I have been the most successful, the most happy, the most satisfied, the most free.

I believe inside of this vision that I shared, if we all moved in the direction of love, connection and authenticity, we would start to make great strides individually and collectively.

I love you.

I’m here for you.

I’m rooting for you.

If you want to take these strides, you’re not alone. I’m walking with you.

LOVElizabeth